Pillow Baby

Our boys are so sweet but they both love to be held day and night. They do not like to be put down, even in their sleep. So in order for Abe and I to get any sleep at all we ended up co-sleeping with the boys. At first Abe slept with one and I slept with the other. The more nights that past the more I began distrusting Abe to sleep with a baby.

He is usually a very heavy sleeper and he likes to sleep surrounded by several pillows and blankets. When we first brought the boys home, he was abnormally alert during the night so I trusted him completely. As the nights went on he began slipping into his heavy sleep patterns again and I began sleeping with both babies, one cradled in each arm. It isn't optimal for me but I am more concerned about the babies not getting smothered in the night by their sleeping father. Abe insists that he is totally aware of the babies and is capable of sleeping with them but he doesn't argue too much because he gets better sleep now that I won't let him sleep with one anyway.

The prove that I am right, here is a funny thing that happened the other night. I was sleeping with both babies and had to get up to feed one. When I get up with one I usually just have Abe hold the other for the short period of time that I am gone. I woke Abe up to take one of the babies. I shook him and said "Abe you have to take a baby". He stirred a little and went back to sleep so I did it again. This time he rolled over just a bit and with annoyance in his voice he said "I already have a baby." I was totally confused at this and shook him again and told him he needed to take a baby. He sat up a little and said very clearly, that he already had a baby and gestured to his arm. I looked down and he was cradling a pillow in his arm.

I laughed and said "that's not a baby, it's a pillow." He looked down at the pillow in his arm and finally reached out and took the baby I was handing to him.

The next day he had absolutely no recollection of any of this. I would say I have proven my point. If your husband can't tell the difference between a pillow and a newborn baby he should not be allowed to sleep with the baby.

Going back to our sleeping arrangement... we have now figured out a way so I don't have to sleep with both babies and I am in heaven because for the last 5 nights I have gotten at least 5 hours or more of sleep per night. My parents offered to take one baby at night so they have been taking Jefferson at night and I take Jace. Jefferson will sleep in a bouncer pretty well but Jace is a total momma's boy and will not sleep unless he is with me so it works out perfect! Thank goodness for my parents, I don't know what I would do without them right now.

And I have to say that for all those who complain about sleepless nights with one baby... you have no idea how good you have it. Two babies is hard, one baby is a breeze!